Also don't compare yourself to how you were in past relationships. Learn from the past, but proceed from it.
If you're just starting out, it is good to go out on group dates at which there's less pressure or meet the individual at events where there will be lots of people. You don't need to start out with the whole flowers and dinner type of date. If it doesn't end up working out together, at least you had a good time.
Do not allow your relationship define and eat you. Love as adults is not obsessing over another person how you would on your TV series or sports team. Adult love implies that we come into the connection as ourselves and also the best kind of love is just one where we preserve our credibility and integrity. You shouldn't bend over backward to attempt to please the person who you're with.
Real love is the type where the person we love stands beside us instead of creating our decisions for us seeking to take the pieces of us that they like and putting the rest of us at a box. If the person you're relationship seems like a control freak, get out of that connection.
